It feels right!

In The Four Loves, C.S. Lewis makes a unique point about human love. It isn't hard to find oneself in the throes of romantic or obsessive affection that seems to get brighter, purer, more selfless and self-justified as time passes. This feeling is how it feels--it's an emotion, as Lewis describes, near to God in likeness, but not necessarily in approach, or proximity. Love, as an emotion, is a divine feeling, and all divine feelings reflect their source--the Lord. However, a rapturous feeling does not always draw one closer to him.

Every human love, at its height, has a tendency to claim for itself a divine authority. Its voice tend to sound as if it were the will of God himself. It tells us not to count the cost, it demands of us total commitment, it attempts to over-ride all other claims and insinuates that any action which is sincerely done "for love's sake" is thereby lawful and even meritorious... [Human loves] may thus attempt to "become gods"...

Now it must be noticed that the natural loves make this blasphemous claim not when they are in their worst, but when they are in their best natural condition...A faithful and genuinely self-sacrificing passion will speak to us with what seems the voice of God.

We may give our human loves the unconditional allegiance which we owe only to God. Then they become gods: then they become demons. Then they will destroy us, and also destroy themselves. For natural loves that are allowed to become gods do not remain loves... but can become in fact complicated forms of hatred.
Lewis reinterates often in his book that he does believe in the divinity of the feelings we feel--that they are a gift from the Lord, and that they deserve validation. However, the mere act of feeling them does not supercede the duties we have to draw closer to the Lord and avoid anything that would obstruct that goal---anything that would become a god unto itself (i.e. "I took on a mistress because we're so in love," or "I disregarded my trusted loved ones and ran away with my boyfriend because it feels so right!")

Maybe the first step in avoiding that trap is to arrest one's momentum. Passionate emotions are like spirited horses that bolt suddenly and run away with you. The scriptures don't say 'bridle your passions' for nothing. Enjoy the feelings, but put on that bridle and pull.  You're driving the chariot.  You are not the horses.

Another fitting metaphor: you've just fallen through the ice on a frozen lake. Now what? According to an expert in The Survivor's Club by Ben Sherwood, the cold doesn't kill as quickly as we think. It's the reflexive breathing shock and hyperventilation that cause us to sink quickly. So the first thing you must do is get your breathing under control. If you can steady your breathing within the first minute of falling in, you have ten minutes of muscle mobility in order to attempt a swim or pull yourself to safety. However, if you succumb to the hyperventilation, you sink.

So take a moment, after that shocking plunge, to control your breathing and regain spiritual clarity. Let no runaway emotion, however 'alike to godliness,' send you bulleting away from truth, duty, and the incomparable love of Christ. A person who really loves you will share those thrilling heavenly feelings and, by obedience to the Lord's laws, bring you closer to him.

"Nearness by likeness"... will not of itself produce "nearness of approach." Meanwhile, however, the likeness is a splendour.

--C.S. Lewis